According to Vocabulary.com, being someone’s valentine means you are someone who receivings a special greeting or attention on Valentine’s day.
When someone asks you to be their Valentine, they are asking you to be their special person on that special day of Valentine. It is an honor and it can be extremely fun if you also like them to be your Valentine too.
You may want to ask “How did this come to be”, “What does being someone’s valentine fully entail”? This post will show you how it all began, what it really means to be someone’s Valentine, and how to be the best Valentine you could ever be.
Brief History of the Origin of Valentine
Valentine’s Day is celebrated every February 14th of every year but the history traces back to many centuries ago. One legend has it that in 3rd Century Rome, Emperor Claudius II made a decree to abolish marriage for young men so that they can be better soldiers. But St Valentinus, a Catholic priest, disagreed and defied the decree because of his strong belief in love.
St Valentinus secretly conducted marriages for lovers at night. And when Emperor Claudius found out, he ordered that he should be put to death. But after his death, people remembered St Valentine for dying for love to prevail and celebrated February 14 in remembrance of him.
Another legend that most clearly explains why we ask other people to be our Valentine is that of Valentine, a young prisoner who fell in love with the jailer’s daughter who she met when she visited her daughter in the prison. From then, the jailer’s daughter regularly visited him and made him fall in love with her.
On the day he was executed, he wrote a love letter to her and signed it with “From your Valentine”. It was said that people started using Valentine as a synonym for Love, and set aside February 14 to celebrate love and the ones we love every year.
What it Really Means to be Someone’s Valentine
When someone asks you to be their Val’, it means they have romantic interests in you and would like to express their affections to you on Valentine’s day. Valentine’s day is a day known for exchanging love freely.
One’s Valentine can be one’s boyfriend/girlfriend, crush, one’s spouse if married, or just any friend that is available to them. But you can be sure to expect a kind gesture of love from someone if they name you their Valentine.
When your Valentine shows you love on Valentine’s day, it is also nice to show them love in return. And even if you cannot give them any gift to reciprocate their kindness, give them joy and happiness in your smile and appreciation of their gestures.
Some gift ideas for your Valentine include flowers, food, paid outing, clothes, love cards, books, or something special you think your partner would love.
Some Deep Meanings of “Be My Val”
When someone asks you to be their Valentine, here are some deeper meanings you may not see coming. These can be so especially if that person has been interested in for some time now, but has not had the opportunity to ask you out.
1. They love you and want to have fun with you
Valentine’s day is a great day to have fun with someone you love and you are attracted to. When someone asks you to be their Val, it might also mean they want to enjoy their day with you by their side. What would be more fun than spending a whole day with someone you love?
2. They want to make you their romantic partner
Asking someone to be you Val does not always mean asking someone to be your boyfriend or girlfriend, or marry you but sometimes it can be. Valentine’s day can be an opportunity to start up something amazing and beautiful that can eventually lead to a relationship or marriage, particularly if they have always been in love with you before then.
3. They want to have an affair with no strings attached
Valentine’s day may seem very harmless but deep down, someone may have alterior intentions. Someone could ask you to be his/her Val if he/she wants to have an affair with you because they are attracted to you, but doesn’t want any relationship from you afterwards. You should be aware of this motive and be prepared to take responsibility for your actions with your Valentine.
4. The want a stronger friendship or relationship
Asking someone to be your Valentine can be another way of telling them you want to be closer with them. You want to get to know them better and establish a stronger air of friendship between you both. This relationship might not be aimed towards romance, sex, or marriage, but remember, love can be shown to anyone and everyone.
How to Know Someone’s Exact Intent for Being Their Val
Having established that being someone’s Valentine can mean deeper things, it is important to understand what their true intent is before you agree to their Valentine’s day proposal.
Whether he/she wants a relationship with you, or just want to be have fun with you that Valentine, these tips below will show you how to know the person’s intent when they ask you to be their Val.
1. Declare your relationship status
Your boyfriend or girlfriend may be out of town on Valentine’s day and someone else might be asking you to be theit Valentine. While it is not exactly bad to spend Valentine with a friend who is not necessarily your relationship partner, it is important to declare your relationship status to see how your Valentine would react.
2. Ask specific questions
If you are single and you do not want to waste any more time catching cruise with different people, you need to ask specific questions about what their intent could be when you agreed to be their Valentine. Questions like “What are your plans for this Valentine”, “What do you want from this date”, and “How will your partner feel about this”, can all give you clarity on what your Valentine wants when they asked you to be their Valentine.
Final words
To be someone’s Valentine means to be that special person who receives gifts and attention on Valentine’s day. What happens afterwards is dependent on what feelings you have for each other, and how the Valentine’s date with them turns out to be.
Learn to reciprocate love on Valentine’s day through giving of gifts and kind gestures. It’s a day to show and celebrate love, to anyone and to everyone. Try not to be left behind.
And it does not necessarily have to be related to romantic love. Show love to other people in need, the orphans, and other people. I wish you a beautiful Valentine’s day.
One Last Frequently Asked Question
Can I be a Valentine to more than one persons on Valentine’s day?
While it is generally acceptable to say yes to only one Valentine on Valentine’s day, it is also acceptable to receive gifts from different people on Valentine’s day. Elizabeth Mitchel offered a way to juggle between several partners on Valentine’s day.
