Facts About The Quote: “If You Love Someone Let Them Go”

If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were.

Kahlil Gibran

You may have heard of the quote, “If you love someone, you let them go; and if they are yours, they would return to you…” Haven’t you?

Letting someone you love go when they choose to is the truest test of love. It means you not only want them in your life but that you also care about what they want.

While the saying might mean different things to many different people, we will see in this post what Kahlil Gibran meant when he said “If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were.”

If you love someone, let them go…

Very often, people mix up what it means to love someone. Love is a state of being genuinely concerned about someone that you want them to always be happy and you don’t want to do anything to hurt them. There is an emotional component of love, which is the experience of attraction and sexual chemistry for someone. This latter is the usual meaning of love that comes first into anybody’s mind the moment the word is mentioned.

If you love someone genuinely, you’d let them go. This does not mean that you’d push them away and expect them to come back if they love you. But if you love someone, you are willing to let them go if they have to.

There are times when it seems like things are not going well in your relationship. You or your partner may be having mixed feelings about the relationship, or maybe feeling like you need to leave the relationship. These are trying times indeed because one of you has had to let the other go even though it is not exactly what you wish for. However, if you love them, you would not try to hold them against their wish.

Why would someone leave?

There are many reasons why someone you love would leave you. It could be that they are no longer feeling attracted to you. It could be that you are having unresolvable differences every now and then. Sometimes, it would be worth it to allow them to leave and develop themselves individually, rather than try to cage them into the relationship simply because you love them.

Other reasons could be: when they don’t seem to love you equally; when they are in love with someone else; or when they are unsure of their commitment to the relationship.

Would they come back?

It is hard to tell if someone you love would come back to you when they leave, but it can be safe to hang your hopes on the saying that if you love somebody, let them go; and if they love you, they would come right back.

We have looked at reasons why someone you love would leave you. Some of those reasons can be very genuine–for example, someone unable to handle disagreements in a relationship might indeed want to leave to study themselves and understand how to deal with such issues. They may not necessarily be leaving you for another, even though that is a possibility too.

If they love you, they would come back. There are two situations where this happens. The first is, they would have understood better ways to deal with the recurring issues rather than just finding their way out. The second and most prevalent is that they might have been with other people and realized that you were the only real thing they ever had.

You let them go even when it hurts you because you loved them, and if they love you too, they will come back when they see the difference.

Do you wait for them to come back?

When someone leaves you, there are often two possibilities: You want to mourn their departure from your life and wait till your heart has significantly gotten over them. Another possibility is that you quickly want to move on to fill the void they have left. This leaves a dilemma of whether you should wait for them to return or not.

Sometimes it takes like forever to get over someone you love. You may never even get over them even if you are with someone else. But does that mean you should wait for them? What if they never return, in which case, we can infer that they were never yours? Would you keep on waiting for them to come back?

You don’t wait for them, you live your life the way you want to live it. If they come back, and you are still available for them, good for you. Otherwise, you are still happy with what you have become after they left.

5 Facts About Letting Someone You Love Go

Letting someone you love go is not an easy thing to do. Here are some more facts about letting someone you love go.

1. Letting someone you love go does not mean you are giving up on them

Giving up on someone means you are no longer interested in them. It means you do not want to love them anymore because they chose to turn their backs on you.

Letting someone you love go does not mean you are giving up on them. It means you are willing to sacrifice your needs to get theirs met. This is the greatest height true love can attain. In a demonstration of how much you love them, you are willing to let them have their own way if that makes them feel better and happier.

2. Letting someone you love go is a sign of maturity

It’s easier to say one is mature than to actually show it. Letting someone you love go when they want to is one important sign of maturity. We don’t always get everything we desire, do we? Life is simply give and take. When you are able to come to an agreement that sometimes in life, you need to let go of things and people, you know that you are being mature and your understanding of life is great.

3. They might permanently leave you and never return

I hope you don’t put your hopes on their return. They may never come back to you. Of course, if they were yours, they would come back to you but if they are not, which is something very probable, that would be the last time they would ever be in your life. If it hurts you so much, I’d encourage you to brace up and stay strong because you will find someone who belongs to you.

4. Someone can be too shy to come back after leaving even when they realize they love you

It stands to reason. They left you despite your efforts to make them see that you genuinely left them, and now they want to come back into your life. Anyone would feel reluctant to come back even if they realized that you are the one they like. This is primarily because of two reasons: One, they don’t want to appear desperate before you. Two, they are not sure what your response would be, and they don’t want to get hurt by it.

5. Letting someone you love go is not a test; it is an expectation

Letting someone you love go should not be a test of how much they love you. In other words, you should not deliberately push someone you love away because you want to test them if they love you too. This is sheer stupidity.

Letting someone go is an expectation, something you are required to do when someone you love decides, for some reason, to turn their backs on you. You do your best to make them stay, but letting them go means you are willing to let them have their way instead of doing all you can to cage them.

Conclusion

If you love someone, let them go; if they come back to you, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were. This is largely true, and it is not necessary to keep someone from leaving. If they love you, they would come back no matter where they go.