Do you feel like you have to fire things up a bit in your relationship lately? Is your relationship getting boring, or does it now feel like there is nothing new in it anymore? I will show you practical ways that have helped people spice up their relationships when they felt the same as you currently do.
Early in most relationships/marriages, everything seems rosy at first. You are just new to yourselves and you are immersed in the emotional feelings and sexual attraction to each other. But as time goes on, things begin to change in the relationship.
It’s not as if there is any drastic change in how either of you talk, act, or behave but like other aspects of life, relationships require you to try some “new things” every now and then.
Whenever you notice dullness or boredom in your relationship, turn to these tips to spice up your relationship with your partner.
1. Try something new
Being stuck in a rut doing the same old things can make the boredom in a relationship hit harder or stay longer. You have to be open to trying new things.
You know those routines that have become habitual in your relationship. Trying new things different from the routine can spice up your relationship with your partner.
For example, instead of eating the usual homemade meals, or seeing a movie in your home, order food for your partner, or make arrangements to go out to see a movie with them. Your partner might not like the idea at first, but when you do new things, that can help spice up your relationship with your partner.
2. Plan a surprise
Does it feel like nothing new has happened in a long time? Little surprises every now and then can reduce staleness in any relationship. Surprises bring a different kind of happiness to you and your partner.
Is there a gift you think your partner will appreciate very well? Make plans to purchase it for him/her without letting them know about your plans. A surprise can bring back memories of the good old days and rekindle the spark in your relationship.
It is important to plan a surprise around something you know your partner will definitely love. If you have lived long enough with them, that should not be too difficult to decipher as they might have said it casually sometimes in your presence.
3. Flirt with your partner
Many partners have become so used to each other that they no longer do those things they did when they were still trying to get each other’s heart. You remember how much you pursued after her, how you used to say beautiful words that make her head swell. Don’t you?
It is that atmosphere of familiarity that makes a relationship grow cold, but while it is normal to experience coldness in every relationship, you can spice it up occasionally bu adopting those same flirtatious behaviours you once used on each other during the earlier years of the relationship.
For example, if you are the man, tell her how beautiful she is, and make it so passionate until you can see her blushing over your words. Frequently doing this with your partner can recover many days or weeks of coldness in the relationship.
Also, if you are the woman, dress in a different and sexier way that you often do. And make those body gestures and movements that puts him in the mood for something more. Making your partner feel the sexual tension more often can spice up your relationship with them.
6. Trigger their love language
One major reason why the emotions begin to go cold is if your partner’s love language(s) is/are not regularly triggered. There are five general love languages according to Gary Chapman. These include physical touch, acts of service, quality time, receiving gifts, and words of affirmation.
Again, it is normal for activities and circumstances to make you not attend to the love languages of each other, but doing so is one sure way to rekindle the love and affection in your partner.
It is also important to remember the inherent love language in your man. This is known as the “hero instinct” which is every man’s desire to be treated like a hero. You can trigger your man’s hero instinct using these tips to gain his attention and restore the fire to your relationship.
5. Try some new sex position/style
If you are married, sex is another area where the relationship might need some spicing up. And once sex is affected, it usually spills out into other areas of the relationship, such that we can rightly say that it is the cause of staleness in most relationships today.
To spice up your relationship with your partner, discuss and try out new sex styles and positions with your partner. It doesn’t matter if your current sex position has always satisfied you both. Doing the same thing over and over again can result in staleness and boredom.
6. Travel to somewhere new
Seeing the same people, places, and things every time can make you think that there is nothing new in your life. This can make the relationship with your partner boring and cold. That is why occasionally traveling somewhere new can add some spice to your relationship.
The experiences you will have in your visiting destination can reshape your relationship with your partner even when you return to your home. Traveling to somewhere new can also give you the opportunity to spend more quality time with your partner away from the children or their distractions.
7. Go out on a date
When was the last time you went out on a date with your partner? If is too long to remember, that can be the reason why your relationship is gradually growing cold.
Planning a date for your partner can rekindle the fire in the relationship. It can remind you of the good old days when romance was still fresh in the relationship. These memories make you remember how much you loved and still love your partner.
8. Find out your partner’s new preferences
It can suddenly feel like the passion is getting cold when you are not keeping up to date with the changes that may have occurred with your partner. Change is the only constant, and we are all subject to it. This is why it is important to always keep up with your partner’s new preferences and adapt to them.
For example, what your partner liked a few months or years ago may not apply today. Communicate with them to find out what their new preferences are currently. That way, you will be able to do things that make them feel loved and spark up the fire in the relationship.
9. Communicate with your partner
One of the best ways to spice up your relationship with your partner is communication. Engage in conversations and communicate with your partner to know what is changing with them.
One reason why boredom creeps into most relationships is because they focus too much on sex and romance. Engage in conversations with your partner regularly and pay special attention to them. This way, you will see that there are many ways a relationship can be enjoyed other than sex and romance.
Discussions and conversations help to bring partners closer to each other, as well as help address important matters that can spice up the relationship. As simple as talking with each other can bring a great deal of relief and pleasure than you’d ever imagine.
10. Deliberately look and dress differently
In most relationships, partners begin to care less about their dress because they think they are no longer trying to impress anyone. This is one reason why some partners might be comfortable in unattractive dresses that can impact how much fire the relationship has.
Spicing up your relationship and sparking up a new fire requires you to deliberately dress differently and more attractively. Making efforts to look better reinforces your partner’s commitment to you and the relationship. It can make them re-develop romantic feelings for you in the relationship.
It is possible that your weight and body care problems are what is standing in the way of romantic fire in your relationship. Deliberately putting up efforts to shed off some unhealthy weight or upgrading your dress sense can make your partner draw closer to you as they see how much you put into making them more attracted to you.
5 Reasons Why You Should Spice Up Your Relationship Always
- It prevents the relationship from getting into an irrecoverable coldness.
- It prevents cheating in the relationship. A survey by Normal Bar showed that 71% of men and 49% of women cheat in marriage because they feel bored in the relationship.
- Prevents divorce by preventing total loss of interest in the relationship.
- Makes the relationship more enjoyable for both partners.
- People feel good when they see a happy and loving relationship.
