Whether you are stuck in a rut or not, there are times when you want to subtly suggest to your husband that you want to have sex with him. Sometimes, it’s because you feel sex-starved. At other times, you just want him to notice you more and give you that sexy look that makes you feel more beautiful and satisfied.
One would think that sex would be a daily routine after getting married to your husband but we all eventually realize that several other activities, responsibilities, and situations can affect his sexual interests at certain points in time. This does not mean that he is no longer attracted to you as he used to be. It only means you have to discover ways to get him back on track as far as your sexual life is concerned.
This interesting post explores common reasons why your husband is losing interest in you sexually and shows you some irresistible ways to seduce him and cue him into running back to you for some serious action.
Let’s begin with the former.
Common Reasons Your Husband Is Sexually Uninterested
If you are looking to seduce your husband because you think he has been drawn away recently, here are some common reasons why he is acting that way. You need to understand that a lot of psychological and social factors can affect a man’s desire to engage in sex with his wife.
- Stress: Stress at work or other forms of stress can affect a man’s libido and can also predispose to premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
- Relationship issues: Being unhappy in the relationship is another important reason why your man may no longer be interested in initiating sexual interactions with you.
- Sexual problems like erectile dysfunction: Issues that affect a man’s sexual performance can toil with his self-confidence and ability to satisfy his wife, which can make some men draw away from you.
- Depressing situations: Situations that depress a man’s mood and energy level can make him uninterested in sex with his wife. These include economic, emotional, and psychological problems in the home.
- Drugs and alcohol: Certain drugs and alcohol can affect a man’s sexual desire and performance. Heavy alcoholism can cause premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
- Medical condition: Chronic medical conditions like hypertension, diabetes, and cancer can affect the integrity of the genitalia which can impact sexual desire and performance.
How to Seduce Your Man And Get Him Aroused
Having seen some common reasons why a man would be sexually averse towards his wife, here we see some tips on how to seduce your husband and turn him on. The biggest secret to successfully cueing him on is in letting him know that you feel irresistibly aroused.
1. Use your body language
One of the best ways to seduce your husband and make him approach you is by using your body language. Men are very receptive to body language and you can easily get him that way.
Common body language examples you can use when trying to seduce your husband include; moving your hand gently over your skin from the thighs through your trunk and then to your breasts. Gently caressing your body and arms while partly looking at him or partly closing your eyes can suggest to him that you want him to come and cuddle with you.
Another body language you can use to seduce your man involves arching your back while bending forward and facing downwards. This sends a quick invitation to him that you are in for something else. Below are other body languages you can try at different times.
- Look at him when he is looking away until he looks back at you. Then, quickly look away smiling, after which you look at him again with a smile on your face.
- Play with your hair while looking away and then stare at him with a smile on your face. Make sure you are at a place where he can see you.
- While talking with him, place your hand on his arm, chest, or thigh, and leave it there a bit longer until he brings his hands towards yours and holds you.
- Lightly bite or lick your lips while looking at him and put up a gentle smile when he finally looks at you.
- If you have long hair or some hair at least, loosen your hair and then, gently run your hand down your hair from top the bottom. Roll your hair bundles over themselves and loosen them again in a never-ending motion. Continue doing so until your husband sees you. Loose hair has been shown to be highly seductive to men.
There are many ways to capture your husband’s attention sexually. The key is doing something suggestive (something that activates his thoughts about holding you or having sex with you) and then acting as if you want him to initiate the process. This means being subtle in your approach and not making it look too obvious.
2. Dressing seductively
Seducing your husband and making him come to you is about understanding how to trigger his five senses romantically. Dressing seductively is a very powerful way to seduce your husband but not many people how to do so.
Several studies have shown that men are psychologically attracted to the red color as it evokes a feeling of interest and arousal. Another color that is highly seducing is black. Wearing a black dress that outlines your body shape can be very seducing to your husband.
Dressing seductively not only involves colors. As already mentioned, when you want to get your man’s attention, you need to wear suggestive clothes that give him a glimpse of your most erotic parts like breasts, thighs, lower abdomen, and upper shoulder/arm.
Even more to that, try this. Wear a spaghetti strap ‘slip dress’ revealing parts of your breasts, upper back, arms, and forearms. Then, seductively bend your body in a way that allows one of the straps to slide off one shoulder. You may also combine any of the previously outlined seductive body language to get his full attention sexually. Only ensure you do it at a time when he can see you.
3. Wear a soft and fruity perfume
Fragrance plays a very important role in men’s seduction. Studies have shown that feminine notes as well as fruity notes have strong seductive effects on men. Among these, Vanilla, Jasmine, Orange, and Bergamot, have a strong seductive effect on men via olfactory stimulation.
In addition to olfactory stimulation, fragrances have been shown to also increase penile blood flow and get him ready for action, another study shows.[1]Human Male Sexual Response to Olfactory Stimuli – American Academy of Neurological and Orthopaedic Surgeons Simply wearing a soft fruity perfume can gear him up for some romantic escapades with you.
Fragrances have also been found to trigger memories and associated feelings. Such that wearing a perfume that has notes similar to the one you wore when you first met, or during one of your previous sexual activities, can evoke the memory in your man and make him more sexually attracted to you.
4. Sway your hips before him
The sway of the hips is a classic sign of feminity that draws men’s attention to a woman. It draws attention to your curves and creates a natural appeal in your man. While some women naturally exhibit it due to their hip shapes, others have to deliberately learn to make them sway.
To seduce your man and draw his attention, sway your hips while walking before him. Make it appear subtle, natural, and effortless while walking across his face. After leaving his sight, you may repeat it in either direction until he grabs you gently into the other room.
5. The voice method
Having seen how to trigger your man’s sexual feelings using the modalities of touch, smell, and sight, your voice is another tool you can use to seduce your husband and turn him on. By lowering your voice or slowing down your words, you can draw your man’s attention towards yourself.
A softer voice makes him more attentive because he instinctively wants to hear everything you have to say. After getting his attention, ‘whisper’ something suggestive into his ear while lightly touching his neck or shoulders. Let the rest sequence of events flow naturally until you have gotten what you want.
6. Send him a romantic picture or text
If your husband is away at work and it is approaching office closing hours, sending a sexy picture of you or a romantic text can arouse him and make him fantasize about making love to you. And when he returns home, welcome him romantically with any of the seductive gestures discussed above.
A simple picture of your exposed thighs when sitting on a chair or bed can make his imagination run wild. Wear a skimpy short or skirt without showing too deep into your underwear.
To seduce him over a text, here are some example texts you can try:
- “I can’t stop thinking about you right now… especially about what I’m going to do to you later. Any guesses? 😉”
- “I just bought something new, and I can’t wait for you to see it on me… or off me. Your call. 😏”
- “You have no idea how hard it is to focus when I keep thinking about how good you looked this morning. Can’t wait to see you later. 🔥”
- “Just a heads up, I’m in the kind of mood that needs your attention tonight. Hope you’re ready for it. 😈”
- “Remember what happened last Friday night? I was just thinking about it… and it’s making me miss you even more right now. 😏”
These text messages can arouse his imagination and seduce him even when he is away at the moment.
7. Go commando
If you are looking for playful ways to be seductive around your husband, try going commando. This means you should skip wearing underwear when he is at home with you, and then proceed to sweep the floor or pick up something from the floor to give your husband a peek into the ‘paradise’. If he doesn’t notice it the first time, try again, and I bet he will approach you once he notices it. Get prepared.
Other Things to Do to Get Him Fully Aroused
Engaging the above methods should work for seducing your husband but if they make him angrier and more withdrawn from you, it is right to explore other reasons why he is not responding to your powerful weapons of seduction. There might be underlying medical, physical, social, and psychological reasons why he is not getting sexually aroused by you.
- Settle any unresolved conflicts with him if you think he is still offended by something that happened. Respectfully engaging him in a peaceful conversation might break the barrier to making love to you after an unresolved conflict.
- Discuss with him asking if there are any issues affecting him psychologically. This goes on to show that you care about his emotional and psychological well-being as well.
- Encourage and support him to get treated for any underlying medical or physical condition that can affect his sexual performance.
- Show him support when he is going through financial challenges. These can greatly affect a man’s libido and sexual performance.
- Respectably encourage him to put off alcohol or other substances for some time, particularly if he is struggling with erectile dysfunction.
- Encourage him to visit the doctor. You might go with him to show your support and desire to get the issues resolved.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it normal for intimacy to decrease after marriage?
Yes, it’s normal for intimacy to change over time. Factors like routine, stress, work, and parenting can reduce the frequency of intimacy. However, with effort, couples can reignite passion and keep their relationship exciting.
How do I know if my husband is still attracted to me?
If your husband still gives you loving glances, compliments your looks, initiates physical touch, or makes an effort to spend quality time with you, he is likely still attracted to you. However, if these signs are missing, there may be underlying issues to address together.
How can I seduce my husband without making it too obvious?
To seduce your husband, subtlety is key; you don't want to make it too obvious. Use body language like light touches on his arm, playful glances, and suggestive movements. Dressing seductively, wearing his favorite perfume, and swaying your hips while walking can send subtle but effective signals.
Other suggestive body language like arching your back, swaying your hips, or wearing a slip dress with a spaghetti strap that "accidentally" falls off your shoulder, combined with playful smiles, lingering eye contact, or slow, soft touches, can sexually arouse your husband.
What clothes can I wear to seduce my husband?
Wearing colors like red or black has been scientifically linked to attraction. Wear body-hugging dresses like slip dresses or outfits that reveal just enough to spark his curiosity. Spaghetti-strap dresses, off-the-shoulder tops, or a silky nightgown are great options too.
What does 'go commando' mean, and how does it seduce my husband?
"Going commando" means not wearing any underwear. It is a playful tactic to create a sense of excitement and seduction in your husband when you let him catch a glimpse while bending over or moving around without any underwear.
Does wearing red really turn men on?
Research has shown that a red dress is psychologically associated with passion, love, and desire. Red triggers a man's visual attraction and makes him look more in a woman's direction, thus increasing his chances of noticing erotic areas in a woman's body like breasts or hips.
What perfume scents turn men on?
Fragrance has been associated with male sexual desire and seduction. Notes like vanilla, jasmine, orange, and bergamot are strongly related to sexual stimulation in men and increasing penile blood flow.
What should I do if my husband doesn’t respond to my seduction attempts?
If your husband does not seem responsive to your seduction attempts, it may be time for an open conversation. Find out if he is stressed or dealing with some emotional, psychological, or physical health challenges, encourage him to communicate those problems with you, and be supportive if he needs medical or psychological help.
How do I get my husband in the mood if he’s stressed?
You can reduce his stress by creating a relaxing atmosphere. Give him a back rub, play soft music he loves, and offer him something to eat. By getting him out of stress, he will feel more ready for sexual intimacy.
What should I do if my husband has erectile dysfunction (ED)?
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is often linked to medical or psychological factors. Encourage him to see a doctor while also helping him identify and address other psychological factors that may affect his erectile function. Be understanding and avoid blame. Emotional support can boost his self-confidence and help reduce performance anxiety.
How do I know if my husband has a medical issue affecting his libido?
Signs like a sudden or drastic change in his sexual interest, reduced energy, low mood, irritability, or other health symptoms could suggest an underlying medical or psychiatric condition. Diabetes, hypertension, hormonal imbalance, and depression can affect libido. Encourage him to see a doctor if you suspect any medical issue affecting his libido.
How do I make my husband want me again after an argument?
If you notice that your husband does not want you again after an argument, he wants you to apologize for something that offended him. Apologize to him, if necessary. Use kind words, offer hugs, and lightly brush your body against his body or arms.
Humility is key, as unresolved conflicts can affect sexual intimacy in a relationship, which can spiral down to more serious situations.
Final words
To seduce your husband and turn him on, you need to focus on stimulating the perceptions that make him fantasize about sex. It’s mainly about triggering his senses, from what he sees, to what he smells, etcetera. However, to get the best effect, you need to be subtle in your approach, not making it look too obvious.
The above tips will help you irresistibly seduce your husband when you need to get his attention, or do you in ways you erotically love.
Wow such an interesting and well balanced read.
Cleanliness is one of the greatest turn ons too for men
You emphasized on curves sir, what about the curveless? What shall they do
Thank you very much for your helpful contribution, sir.
I like the way you used the word “curveless”. Os hilarious, I’m literally rolling on the floor now. 🙂
However, my emphasis on curves is based on wearing a dress that fits on the skin to outline the body shape.
Well, it doesn’t exactly specify that she must havea figure-8 structure.
Again, thank you so very much for supporting my work, Sir. You are the best.