It’s often easy to know when a girl does not like you or want to be with you but many times, guys rationalize too much thinking she might be pretending or forming hard to get. However, with years of experience, I have found some clear signs that she does not like you or wants to ever have anything to do with you.
Knowing when to quit the chase is as important as anything else. Trying too hard to get a girl who does not like you will drain your energy, it will ruin your friendship with her, and/or make you severely hurt in the end. Rather than try too hard for a girl who never wants to be with you, save your energy until you find the one who genuinely loves you.
If you think you have all it takes to win a girl and take care of her but are wondering why she doesn’t seem to like you back, it is important to understand that her personal preferences might be contributory. Not everyone is going to like you but rest assured that you will find someone who likes you unconditionally.
That being said, here are the signs to look out for in finding out if a girl is worth the chase or not. If you find any of these signs, she might not be interested in you, and it might be time to cut the chase.
Signs She Does Not Like or Want to Be With You
Beginning from the first day you meet her, you can detect some signs that a girl is not interested in you. Here are some common signs a girl does not like you or want to be with you.
1. She avoids exchanging contacts
When you meet a girl for the first time, you might want to get her number so that you can continue the conversation and probably plan your date with her. But if you notice that she is acting avoidant from the beginning, and is reluctant to give you her number, it is a sign that she does not like you or is not ready for a relationship with you.
Avoiding contact or walking away from you can also mean that she is in a serious relationship with someone else and doesn’t want to jeopardize her relationship being around you, or she might not be ready for a relationship at the moment. Whatever the case, avoiding physical or phone contact is a sign that a girl does not like you or be with you.
2. She ignores and does not return your calls
One easy sign to know a girl who does not like you is that she deliberately ignores your calls. Ignoring your calls means she does not want to talk with you or let you get too familiar with her.
Oftentimes, it can be hard to know whether a girl is deliberately ignoring your call or not. A girl can be genuinely busy or engaged with a task when you call her, which can make her unavailable to answer your call. However, if she likes you, she will return your call at a later hour when she is less busy.
A girl might unintentionally ignore your calls even when she likes you probably without thinking you may interpret it as dismissive. However, if she consistently does so and doesn’t seem to care about missing your calls, you might need to reconsider whether she truly likes you or not.
3. She wants to exploit you
People come close to you for different reasons. Some might be genuinely interested in a relationship or friendship. Others might come because they want to get something from you.
A girl who likes you and wants to be with you in a relationship would usually not ask for so much early in the relationship. She tries to set herself apart from other girls/people you may have met before. It shows her interest in a genuine relationship with you and not because of what she wants to get from you.
Thus, if a girl you like starts asking you for money or possessions on the first date, this is enough evidence that she is not interested in you or wants to be with you.
4. She avoids your company
If she does everything possible to avoid being with you, she might not be interested in you. She might not like you enough, or feel there are some irreconcilable differences between your beliefs, status, or class, and might not prefer you to be in her social circle or her in yours. Avoiding opportunities for close contact with you is a sign that she does not like you or want to be with you.
5. She does not answer your requests
When a girl likes you, or even when you like someone, you do what is possible to answer their requests. For example, when you ask her to help you get something, a girl who likes you will see it as an opportunity to show her interest, while a girl who does not want to be with you will outrightly tell you ‘no’.
Of course, she is not going to answer all your requests, especially when it is not comfortable for her. But if you notice that she ‘always’ refuses to help you or get out of the way for you, it might be her way of letting you know that she does not want anything to do with you.
6. She avoids intimate body contacts
Generally, girls reserve hugs and other intimate body contact for people who are very close to them, especially if they are of the opposite sex. If a girl consistently refuses to hug you, it might be a sign that she does not see anything possible between you two.
It is important to add that even minor body contact like touching her hand or arm can upset a girl who does not like you. Additionally, a girl who does not like you today can still end up liking you tomorrow. However, for the time being, she does not like you or want to be with you.
7. She doesn’t care about your absence
If you notice that a girl does not make any effort to contact you or show any concern when she has not heard from you, that’s a sign that she does not like you. A girl who likes you will make an effort to hear from you when it’s been quite a while.
A girl who likes you always wants your attention but one who doesn’t does not care even if you are away for long periods of time. So, if you are wondering why she is not bothered when you ignore or try to stay away, it is because she does not like you or want to be with you.
8. She tells you straight up
At first, a girl might not expressly tell you that she is not interested in you but she may use any opportunity she has to express how she actually feels. For example, when jokingly asked by someone else if both of you are going to get married, she might quickly weigh in about how impossible that would be.
9. She doesn’t notice your presence
When a girl likes you, your presence means a lot to her. She might instantly re-adjust herself or temporarily stop what she is doing just to acknowledge your presence. But when if she doesn’t like you, your presence does not impact her or her actions in any significant way.
A girl who does not like you or wants to be with you acts however she wants at that moment. As much as it is important to act real and natural, being around someone you love can make you act more carefully, especially when you just met.
10. She doesn’t like you visiting her
A girl who does not like you or wants to be with you may not be very comfortable with you visiting her because she knows that you are probably wanting to see her because you have romantic interests in her, which she is willing to oblige to. She may allow you to visit her only out of courtesy, but she may not want you to spend time inside with her for obvious reasons.
First, she might consider spending time with you as a waste of time. Second, she might not want other people to get the impression that she is your girlfriend when in fact, she doesn’t like you.
Frequently Asked Questions
What should I do if I notice these signs?
If you see signs that a girl does not like you or wants to be with you, the best thing to do is to respect her feelings and give her space. Focus on your personal growth and look for someone who would reciprocate your feelings. If you still feel like trying again, that's fine but remember that the more you try, the more she would show you signs that she does not want to be with you.
Can a girl change her mind about liking you?
Yes, a girl can change her mind about liking you as you get along with her. Your persistence and loving gestures might make her change her mind to give you a chance, but this might not always end well. Instead of trying to change her mind to like you, focus on being your best self. You will find someone who naturally likes you without you having to do more than you can afford.
How to tell if she is just hiding or if she genuinely doesn't like me?
When a girl is giving mixed signals, the best way to know if she is not just playing hard to get or if she doesn't actually like you is by paying attention to the dominant signs discussed in this post. Perhaps, if she demonstrates many of the above signs, you can be quite certain that she doesn't like you.
If you are close enough for a conversation or a phone contact, you might as well ask her to be your close friend to hear what her response would be. A girl who is not interested in you will plainly let you know she is not interested. Respect her response and move on in your search for your dream girl.
How do I move on if she doesn't like me?
If you find out that she doesn't like you or want to be with you, accept her feelings and avoid overthinking why she may have rejected your interest. People have their own preferences and you will definitely find the perfect one for you. During this time, focusing on hobbies, personal interests, passions, and friends/family can help you move on from the rejection.
Do these signs mean she has a boyfriend?
No, not necessarily. The above signs do not always indicate that a girl you like already has a boyfriend but they can sometimes mean so. A girl who is giving mixed signals may mean that she has a boyfriend but likes you to be around her corner. Thus, while these signs might help, communicating with her can help, particularly if she allows you to have conversations with her.
Conclusion
While it’s often not too hard to know a girl who likes you, these signs may be of help in knowing when a girl does not like you or want to be with you. Also, acknowledge that not everyone will like you. It’s not always about you; her preferences may be weighing in too.
A girl may send mixed signals if she is unsure about the direction the relationship could take. This means a girl can like you but not be deeply invested in being with you.
However, what the case is, it is important to accept the status quo and respect her decision regarding being with you. Eventually, you will find a girl who loves you and absolutely wants to be with you.
