You want to get closer to your crush, especially when it feels like you can no longer bottle up your feelings. Getting closer to your crush will help you diffuse the strong feelings and create an opportunity to explore if there is a possibility of getting into a relationship with him/her.
Whether you are a guy or a lady, it can be quite a difficult thing to get acquainted with someone you crush; I mean, someone you like at first sight. You get an awkward feeling about the whole thing and might wonder if your crush feels the same way towards you.
However, as difficult as it might seem, getting closer to your crush and having a chance with him/her can be easily done by following the tips you will see in this post.
Why Should You Get Closer To Your Crush?
It is normal to think of backing down after having the need to draw closer to your crush, particularly when it feels like a challenging task for you. However, it is worth the effort to get closer to your crush. Here are some reasons you should not back give up too easily.
- It will help you know your crush better
- To know if there is a possibility of a relationship
- It helps diffuse the feelings and makes you more comfortable
- To enjoy his/her company
- To understand yourself better and the things that attract you to other people
How To Get Closer To Your Crush
Whether he/she is someone you see daily or a once-in-a-while pattern, here are some ways to get closer to your crush, not only physically but also emotionally.
1. Look for common interests
One of the simplest ways to get closer to your crush is to find shared interests and activities. Common interests create a natural ground for a conversation and getting acquainted with your crush. It will not be easy getting closer to your crush if you only talk with him/her when you accidentally bump into and exchange ‘hi’ with each other.
Make efforts to find out more about your crush’s hobbies and interests. Nowadays, it is even easier to learn about someone’s hobbies and interests simply by going through their social media feeds.
Identify activities you share with your crush and create opportunities to spend more time doing those activities. That way, you’d get a bigger opportunity to meet up with your crush and start a wholesome conversation from there.
2. Show them you like them
Pretending not to care is not the best way to approach your crush if you want to get close to him/her. It would be best if you showed them that you like them and are attracted to them.
There are many ways to make your crush see that you are interested in him/her. It begins with putting up a genuine smile when you are around them.
There is no point trying to fake a frown when you are physically close to your crush. That makes him/her think that you are nervous, unsure of your feelings, trying to hide your feelings, or are playing too hard to get.
Also, use body language to communicate your interest in your crush. An example is how you use your eyes when you are with him/her. Make brief eye contact with your crush during those casual roadside greetings. Sustain eye contact when you are in a conversation look away occasionally, and mirror their eye movements. That is, keep eye contact when they look at you and look away when they do.
Another way to show them you like them is to flirt with them. You can use your body language to flirt with them or respond to their words or questions in a way that subtly shows that you are fond of them. Also, infuse humour into your conversations. That is a good way to flirt and show that you are interested in your crush.
3. Start as friends
It is okay to start off as friends. Don’t think too high in your desires, or idealize your crush in a way that makes you see him/her as different from every normal person. Decide in your mind to be your crush’s friend and for them to be yours too.
Simple friendship allows you to know about the person you are interested in without too much pressure. On the other, dreaming of a very strong romantic relationship from the start will put unnecessary tension in the relationship and can make your crush uncomfortable around you from the very beginning.
4. Be a good listener
To get closer to your crush, you should learn to be an active listener. This will help you understand them better and learn more about their interests, hobbies, passions, life goals, and ambitions.
Listening attentively when your crush is around you not only makes him/her feel that you understand and freer around you but also lets you know if a romantic relationship that could end in marriage will be worth the exercise.
5. Look and smell nice
What if I tell you there is a way you can attract your crush to yourself? Looking and smelling nice is a great way to make your crush want to get close to you too.
Dress well, look neat, and wear good perfume, especially when you know they will be around the vicinity. Once your crush sees that you are actively making efforts to attract them, they will see clearly that you are much into him/her.
6. Be yourself
When trying to get close to your crush, be yourself. Maintain your self-confidence and avoid being too clingy. Be honest in your words and behaviour, and avoid pretending to be someone you are not.
Express your opinions politely even if they differ from theirs. Allow yourself to show your vulnerability to them instead of playing mind games with them.
Don’t get too scared about making mistakes around him/her. Express yourself freely. When you make a mistake or say something that comes out as off, avoid making the expression that they would leave you or hate you for it. Admit and apologize freely if you need to.
Remember that being yourself is the most attractive quality you can offer. Your crush is likely to appreciate your authenticity, and that creates a foundation for a more meaningful connection at a much later time.
How To Make Your Crush To Like You Back
Attraction has a psychology you need to understand. Making your crush like you back is not independent of the previous steps of getting close to them. They work hand in hand.
Even though your crush may not like you in the same way as you, there are chances that your crush finds something interesting about you. Adopting the easy steps to get closer to your crush will make him/her naturally begin to like you even more.
To re-emphasize those ways to get closer and make your crush like you back, identify common interests, show him/her you like them, be open to friendship, take it slowly, be a good listener, and so on. Once they see your efforts at getting close, they will naturally get attracted to you as well.
But note that you don’t need to force your crush to like you back. If he/she does not like you back beyond the casual friendship level, learn to be comfortable with being friends with them. The important thing is that you can still learn more about yourself and other people by being friends with them.
Final words
From now on, I hope this will be the end of gushing over your crush from a distance without being able to get close. If you apply these tips well, you should be able to get something started between you and your crush and watch how everything unfolds from there.
