Do you feel like you need to spice up your relationship a little bit? Maybe things are getting boring between you and your partner. You might definitely need to add more spice to the mix.
It is normal to experience boredom in romantic relationships. Being with the same person can make one get stuck in routines. You find yourself doing the same things over and over again until you begin to get tired of doing those things.
However, being with the same person does not mean you can’t innovate and spice things up every now and then. Even new activities you introduce to spice things up a bit would soon become obsolete and boring. Hence, it is important to find ways to keep spicing things up as soon as you start getting bored in the relationship.
This post will not just show you specific things you can try to spice up your relationship when it gets boring but also show you tips on how to continually spice up your relationship each time it starts getting boring.
Why You Need to Spice Up Your Relationship
Before we see how you can spice up your relationship and continually spark the fire of passion with your partner. let’s quickly look at some reasons why it is important to seek ways to spice up your relationship when it is getting cold.
- Spicing up your relationship when it gets boring can help prevent it from becoming irreversibly cold. The love and passion can gradually fade away if you are not proactive in bringing back the passion and fire.
- A survey by Normal Bar showed that 71% of men and 49% of women cheat in their marriage because of boredom in the relationship. Thus, spicing up your relationship with your partner can largely help prevent cheating.
- It helps preserve mutual interest in the relationship, thus, preventing divorce and separation.
- It makes the relationship more fun and enjoyable for both partners.
- Having a happy and loving relationship can make you a center of observation to other couples who desire ever-lasting happiness in their relationship too.
How to Spice Up Your Relationship With Your Partner
Spicing up your relationship with your partner requires mutual commitment and desire. The following tips will help you rekindle the flames of passion and romance in your relationship.
1. Try something new together
When was the last time you tried something new with your partner? Being stuck in the rut can make any relationship boring. And while we can’t avoid getting stuck in a routine, trying something new with your partner can help bring freshness to your relationship.
For example, if you are always eating your usual homemade meals, eat outside with your partner once in a while, or go out to see a movie together. Travel together, go to a bar together, lodge in a hotel, or just do something you have not done with your partner within the last six months or longer. This way, you bring back a new freshness into your relationship and make it more interesting.
2. Plan a surprise for your partner
Surprises have a way of bringing back some awesomeness into your relationship or marriage. The memories of a surprise can last for weeks to months after it has been made. This is why you should prioritize surprising your partner every now and then as a way of spicing up the relationship.
You can plan a surprise date for your partner and let him/her know a few hours/minutes before it. Ensure that they are free on that day so it doesn’t interfere with your plans. You can also surprise your partner with a surprise gift they would love.
You can also use a surprise to bring back memories of the good old days. Wear a dress/shirt that reminds your partner of those days when the fire was at its peak, or purchase an item, food, or jewelry that does the same.
3. Flirt with your partner
Flirting is probably one of the things that brought you together. This can be through complimenting each other, admiring your partner, or making suggestive body movements.
Complimenting your partner with words that make them sexually aroused is a way of spicing up a relationship when it’s starting to get boring. Frequently engaging in flirting in your relationship can keep the flames burning in your relationship. Also, dressing specially for your partner can re-ignite your interest in each other.
6. Trigger his/her love language
The five love languages proposed by Gary Chapman are important ways to spice your relationship with your partner, particularly when the relationship starts getting cold. These love languages may seem like small gestures but they hold the key to rekindling love, romance, and passion in your relationship.
The love languages include physical touch, acts of service, quality time, receiving of gifts, and words of affirmation. All the five love languages are important in every relationship but after being with your partner for this long, you must have identified which of these love languages appeals to your partner the most.
If gifts appeal to your partner the most, get them a special gift. If it is quality time, plan a special date (indoor or outdoor). And if it physical touch, create a special moment to cuddle with your partner and bring back all the memories of your romance together.
5. Try a new sex position/style
Sex is an integral component of most, if not all romantic relationships, thus, it is an area that can easily get boring. Once sex starts becoming boring, it can impact other areas of the relationship including romance and happiness.
Whether you both have a favorite sex position or style, it might be time to try something new. This is because doing the same thing over and over again can make the activity becoming boring, which is why trying something new in bed becomes very important.
There are various sex positions and styles to try. You can also choose to add music to the background during sex just to have a different experience. Whatever you choose to do, you should discuss it with your partner and ensure that both of you consent to it to get the maximum pleasure and satisfaction.
6. Plan a trip to somewhere new
Being in the same place all year round can make the relationship or marriage start getting boring but traveling to new places helps spice things up. Whether it is a local or an international trip, traveling somewhere new can bring freshness into your relationship.
Planning a trip to a new destination requires weeks or months of planning. Not only will the trip itself bring some excitement to you and your partner but the planning process also does that too. Thinking about the special trip you both will be having in a few months can add some excitement to the relationship even before the actual date arrives.
Traveling to a new destination with your partner also gives you an opportunity to spend quality time, free from distractions, with your partner, as well as experience new memories you can look back to several years down the line.
7. Go out on a special date
There are many different date ideas you can try when you are getting bored in your relationship. Going out on a special date can rekindle romance and love in your relationship with your partner. It brings you out of the routine while creating new remarkable memories with your partner.
Important aspects of a special date include the location, the food, the music, the view, the activities you do before, during, and after, and so on. Sometimes planning a date to a location where you first met or fell in love with each other can help bring back all the memories you both need to remember.
8. Find out your partner’s new preferences
Realizing that change is a constant is the first thing you need to know to manage change. Not only do you get older in the relationship but certain things begin to change in you and your partner.
If you feel like your relationship is not as exciting as it used to be, it could be that your partner’s preferences have changed but you are still doing the old things to them. Taking time to understand your partner’s new preferences can help spice up your relationship.
If you are finding it hard to find out your partner’s new preferences on your own, the next point might be of help.
9. Communicate with your partner
Communicate with your partner about their new preferences if you find it hard to know them yourself. But once you do something your partner loves, he/she will definitely express their pleasure and satisfaction with it.
Communication is not only about discussing what they want or don’t want. Also take time to communicate deeply with each other, sharing things you have not discussed in a while. Sometimes, sharing those ‘everyday stories’, stories from your childhood, milestones, and stories of how you fell in love with each other can help re-establishing love, passion, and intimacy with your partner.
Being willing to communicate with your partner is a way to let them know that you still value them so much, and this can make them love you more deeply.
10. Play games together
When work and family affairs get overwhelming, it is difficult to remember having fun and playing games together. But playing together increases fun, joy, and satisfaction because research has shown that such activity helps increase the level of dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins in the body, which are all linked to a better mood and happiness.
Whether it is a board game, video game, card game, outdoor game, etc, playing games with your partner can help consolidate your relationship with your partner. Games also bring out your competitive sides, helping you both learn more ways to face challenges together in the family. Interestingly, you can involve your children in the family games to make the experiences more memorable.
Final words
It is normal to experience periods of coldness and boredom in every romantic relationship but what you do during those periods is what determines whether the flames will burn bigger afterward or you will continue complaining about unhappiness in your marriage. Spicing up your relationship when it gets boring is the responsibility of both partners but once your partner sees that you are highly committed to spicing things up, they too would follow suit.
The above tips are fact-based ways you can spice up your relationship with your significant other. Drop a comment in the comments section below if you have any additional tips to add to the list above.
