You have been crushing on this girl but you don’t know how to tell her how you feel? Every guy has been in that state before. You may be wondering how best to hint or show this girl that you like her without causing any problems or losing her eventually. Read on!
One of the things you may have noticed is that when you are getting close to a girl, she automatically begins to have mixed thoughts about you. You can easily spot that she is beginning to ask questions about what you want with her. Thus, it becomes important to show her that you like her to make her reciprocate your feelings to you without putting her off.
Hinting a girl that you like is not as hard as you might think. You simply have to understand how a girl thinks about certain actions from you. Girls are very calculative, but fortunately, you can use that to your own advantage in showing your crush how you feel about her.
There are several avenues to hint to a girl that you like her. If you are physically present with her and you see her almost every day, there are ways you can make her know that you like her easily. Other ways include the use of social media, text and calls, as you would see in this post.
Why is it necessary to hint at a girl you like?
It is necessary to hint at a girl you like because you don’t want to come all out on her. Girls feel scared when you suddenly declare your feelings to them, but when you take it slowly, they feel more comfortable.
Another important reason why you need to drop hints at a girl you like is that you want to see if she is also interested in you. She may not love you outrightly but you need to verify if she is open to anything with you. Otherwise, you would be chasing the wind eventually.
Last but not least, you can be close to a girl and not make her get the feelings that you like her (friend-zoned). By hinting to her that you like her, you can make her begin to consider what it will look like to be in a relationship with you.
How to hint at a girl you see every time that you like her
You are at an advantage if you can physically keep in touch with a girl you are crushing after. Here are some ways to show her you like her and make her develop feelings for you too.
1. Stare at her and make her catch you sometimes
One of the first ways to hint to a girl that you like her is to catch a peek at her when she is looking away.
During the first few times, when she turns her head to look towards you, turn your eyes away to make her think that you were unconsciously staring at her. Later on, stare at her and make her eyes catch yours. You may add a light smile to it to make her feel your intentions a bit more.
When staring at a girl you like, don’t limit yourself to only the face. Observe her from head to toe. That way, she knows that you are really interested in her.
2. Sometimes, pretend not to see her when she passes
One of the best ways to make anyone think that you are interested in them is by pretending not to see them when they pass. Girls use this tactic to get guys to themselves, and it is high time guys understand this too.
By acting as though you do not see them when everyone, including her, knows that you saw them, you automatically trigger her to have thoughts about you, including thoughts like “Does the guy like me?”, “Why does he not want me to know that he has seen me?”
These questions would fundamentally make her know that you like her, and might also make her begin to like you too.
3. Flirt with her when you have the opportunity
Flirting is one effective way to communicate your feelings to someone you like without doing so much. You can easily flirt with anyone if you know the things that can sexually turn them up.
For example, when you know that girls like to hear words of compliment, praise, and reassurance, you can use that to flirt with a girl that you like. Take time to understand what that girl specifically likes to hear and say it to her every time you are close to her.
You can be so close to a girl and not make her get the vibes that you like here. You don’t want to remain in the friend zone with a girl that you are genuinely interested in, do you? Flirting is one way to hint to her that you like her and save yourself from the friend zone.
4. Create sexual tension through touch
You can make a girl know that you like her without even laying a finger on her but sometimes touching her makes her feel it even more.
As earlier mentioned, when you are getting close to a girl, she might begin to wonder what your intentions are. She might already like you as a friend but if you don’t create the right atmosphere, she might never like you beyond that.
Touching different areas of a woman’s body creates different sexual tensions for her. For example, touching her lower arms sends her a feeling that you want to be friends with her. This does not usually elicit any significant emotional tension.
Touching her upper arm raises her suspicion that you are romantically interested in her. Going higher up creates a lot of sexual tension that she might not like if you are not really close to her.
Other areas of a woman’s body are represented below with a colour code to show how much tension touching them there will produce. The yellow and red areas are high-tension zones you should only touch when you have gotten very romantically close to her, otherwise, she files an assault for you.
Touching her hair or skirt (shown by the orange colour) shows that you are seriously interested in getting very close to her emotionally.
5. Take it slowly
When hinting at a girl that you like her, you must be careful to take it slowly no matter how strongly you feel about telling her. Rushing things with a girl can make her lose interest in you. She begins to feel that you want to use her and dump her.
Suddenly telling a girl that you like her puts her off completely in shock but by gently giving her hints, you prime her to be more receptive as you progress with your advances. This also applies to other measures discussed above like flirting with her or touching her.
For example, you don’t want to start touching her on the red and yellow zones too early. That will make her very uncomfortable around you even if she is also interested in you.
6. Act as if you care
Not just acting as if you care but actually caring after her. Be masculine around her, offer her assistance when she needs your help, be on the gentlemanly side of the road when you are walking the road with her, and open the car door for her when you are taking a car with her.
You need to be as gentlemanly as you possibly can when trying to show a girl that you like her. Little gestures matter and you must be willing to let go of your pride to make her know that you genuinely like her.
7. Smile at her frequently
Smiling is one of the most mysterious emotions ever. If someone frowns, you can clearly explain that they are feeling bad, if they laugh, they are certainly happy, but smiles are often very ambiguous as you can exactly tell what it means.
When you smile at a girl, she develops a gut feeling that you like her but also, at the same time, wants to find out the real reason why you keep smiling at her. You are more than halfway into getting a girl if you make her think about you even when you are not around her.
8. Make her feel special
One of the best ways to make a girl know that you like her is by making her feel special. You can make a girl you like feel special in the ways you behave towards her, and how you treat her differently from other people.
For instance, the way you adjust yourself when she comes around can make her feel special. When talking with other girls and she comes around, pause for a moment as if to acknowledge her. You might want to excuse yourself from the other ladies to have a short time with her first. This is one of the greatest gestures to make a girl know that you like her.
9. Subtly tell her that you like her
This post is about hinting at a girl that you like her. So, I’m using “subtly” because it is not about outrightly telling her that you are interested in her.
By “subtly”, I literarily mean playing with words in a way that makes her know that you like her without saying it directly. This raises her anticipation for when you will finally let the cat out of the bag.
When subtly hinting at her, carelessly throw in vague words like “like you”, “would love to”, “really interested in”, etc, into your conversations. That way she begins to see that you are having romantic interests in her.
One principle about subtly hinting at a girl you like is that by acting differently from your natural demeanour, you make her feel more that you like her. If you are naturally confident and daring, act frightened or reserved a bit when telling her about your feelings, and vice-versa if you are naturally fearful.
Lastly, another way to subtly tell her that you like her is by describing her as the perfect woman she would like to be with without mentioning her name or telling her directly.
10. Tell her she is beautiful at every opportunity
Telling a girl that she is pretty makes her feel special and attracted to you. It is a great way to hint at a girl that you like her without directly saying so.
While that is so, not every opportunity is good to express your feelings. Snatch those opportunities when she is least expectant to hear such compliments from you, and sometimes walk away unbothered after telling her how beautiful she is.
When you keep doing so, she would naturally have thoughts about you when she is alone. Those thoughts can make her smile when she thinks of how you always tell her how beautiful she is.
Social media is another avenue to hint to a girl that you like her, especially if you have not met her in real life or if you are not close to her at the moment. Relationships and marriages have started via social media before, so don’t feel awkward when you are liking a girl on social media.
Do the following to hint at a girl on social media that you like her.
1. Like her pictures
Guys naturally do this on social media. I don’t need to say it twice. Girls understand that when a guy likes one of her photos on social media, it means that the photo is beautiful, but when he likes multiple pictures within a short period (say hours to days), it means the guy likes her.
This is an easy way to hint to a girl that you like her via social media but it’s not so effective because many guys have the opportunity to do the same as long as they are on the same social media space.
2. Drop lovely and romantic comments on her posts
To take it a step further, follow her posts closely and drop romantic comments to them. When you consistently write these comments to most of her posts, she might begin to convince herself that you are interested in her.
One precaution in doing this is that you don’t want to come off too desperate and frequent when dropping comments for her. Take some time before commenting, you don’t always have to be first, and you don’t necessarily have to comment on all her posts, to avoid making yourself like a regular social media fan gushing over her.
3. Reply to her comments and start off a conversation
The comment section is a great place to start off a conversation with a girl you are interested in. Many people proceed too fast to DM a girl they like but that often doesn’t end up well.
If she creates an opportunity to be directly engaged on social media, immediately seize that opportunity by jumping into a direct conversation with her.
4. Proceed to DM her
When you feel like she has gotten comfortable with you, proceed to send her a direct message. Tell her how pleased you are to meet her and take it slowly as you go.
Make efforts to know her better, what she does and other important details about her. You don’t have to rush all on a single day but that depends on how willing she is to tell you her personal details at the time.
In her DM, ask for her phone number when you feel she is comfortable enough, so you can reach her more closely. Switch to WhatsApp if you feel the need to, as WhatsApp feels more personal. Then, ask for an opportunity to see if you currently live close to each other.
8. Declare your intentions to her when she asks you
When you do all of the above, she would definitely want to hear from you what your intentions are. When she asks you, don’t hesitate to tell her how you feel about her.
If you have been talking for some time without seeing her in person, declaring your intentions can make her also want to see you in person. Make arrangements to see and when that happens, create the necessary sexual tension as described for hinting at a girl you see physically.
How to hint a girl via call and SMS that you like her
Once you have a girl’s phone number, it becomes easier to contact her via call or SMS. Here are ways to hint to a girl that you like her when you have her phone number.
1. Call her regularly
Some gestures directly make a girl know that you like her even without you telling her a word. Calling her regularly is one such gesture that hints to a girl that you like her.
When you call her, ask her about her day to get an idea of how her usual day goes. Try to ask engaging questions to keep the conversation going. With time, she will get very free with you and you can take it from there.
2. Send her good morning texts
Sending her romantic good-morning texts is another way to make a girl know you are interested in her. It makes her realize that you are always thinking about her, which is a sign that you like her.
If you can or depending on your schedule, you can also send her goodnight messages as well. But always make sure that you are not overwhelming her with messages. That means you don’t have to do it every day. You can take some breaks from texting her for a while but don’t stop being in touch with her.
3. Call her to tell her you miss her in a friendly way
Once in a while, call you to tell her that you miss seeing or talking with her, particularly if you have met her in person on at least one occasion. That way, she further confirms that you are thinking about her.
If possible, plan a time to see her in person, especially if you have not seen her in person before.
What if she returns your hints that she is not interested?
Naturally, when you hint at a girl that you like her, she consciously or unconsciously hints you back that she is interested or not. You should observe the signs as you hint at her. For example, if she replies to your chats promptly, smiles back at you, and tries not to push you away, she may be interested in you.
But sometimes, a girl might not be interested in you at the start. Once you are able to pick up the signals that she is saying that she is not interested, there are several things you should do.
First, keep pushing your luck. Don’t give up too easily. At a point, you need to go directly at her by either asking her if she is currently in a relationship, or if she would like to be with you because you like her. These are important because they are possible reasons why she might not be interested in you.
What if you erroneously hint at a girl without knowing?
This happens too. Sometimes, you give random hints to a girl without knowing that she is falling for them. Maybe you are just being a nice guy, or you just want to be her friend. This can go wrong when she finds herself liking you but you stopped making further advances at her.
In this situation, you need to get closer to her to find out what she wants. You might not need to ask her directly but by regular conversations with her, you will be able to figure out if she wants a relationship with you or not. And if you are genuinely falling in love with her, give the relationship a shot.
Final words
Hinting a girl that you like her requires a basic understanding of how they think about your actions, gestures, words, and body contact. Irrespective of the medium, physical contact, social media, or SMS/calls, you can successfully hint to a girl you like and observe her response.
As you hint the girl you like about your interest in her, take note of her responses. Know when to continue and know when to quit trying. Remember, if she likes you she would also put in some effort too.
Hinting a girl that you like is not as hard as you might think. The secret is in taking things slowly but with a determination to get her to love you too.
How do you reciprocate the pain in such a way that it does not threaten her?
Thanks for asking.
I presume you want to ask “how to express the pain in a way that does not threaten her”.
What I mean by that is you just have to show that you are pained by her initial rejections if you know that she could possibly be interested in but only acting up.
When she sees that, she may begin to think that you were really serious about your interest in her.
By expressing them in a way that does not threaten her, I mean you should not make it look like you hate her or that you are angry with her. You should make the pain not look like a way of getting at her for not accepting you.