If there is a reduction in your sexual satisfaction with your partner, here are some things that will help you make your sexual experience sweeter and more enjoyable.

Whether you are new to sex or you have been in the game, you can agree that sex can be a very sweet experience. The act of sexual intercourse has been described as one of the most pleasurable activities known to man. But not everyone experiences it the same way.

There has been an agelong argument about who enjoys sex the more: men or women? We may be able to talk about this topic later in this post. But for now, we focus on people who are not enjoying good sex with their partner anymore or not at all. This post will help you revamp your sexual experience and improve the quality of sex with your partner.

It is important to know that a combination of factors like physical and psychological factors play a role in one’s experience of sex.

What does sex entail?

To fully understand how you can make sex sweeter with your partner, let’s see other accompaniments aside from penetration that can enhance the sexual experience.

Some people just pick up a partner and the next thing they are already penetrating each other. Sexual satisfaction is not only about penetrative sex. Other elements leading to it are also very important.

These include cuddling (caressing the body, ears, hands, legs thighs, etc), kissing, and other leading sexual activities. Effectively engaging in these before the actual sex can make you enjoy sex more with your partner. This explains why sexual satisfaction gradually declines among partners after a while of having sex with each other.

How to make sex more enjoyable

You may have heard of many different types of sexual enhancers to boost libido and make sex more enjoyable. But how efficacious are they?

Drugs and sexual stimulants may appear to work in improving the enjoyment of sex but these do not always work, and not for everyone. I will show you some practical ways to make sex more enjoyable without any chemical drugs or additives.

1. Sanitize your mind

Sanitizing your mind has to do with changing your orientation about sex. The media and pornography may have shown you an erroneous perspective about sex. If you are fantasizing about big body parts and very energetic sexual activity, this might affect your satisfaction with your partner.

It is important to understand that sexual performance and satisfaction are not dependent on how big the sexual organs and body parts are. Whatever your sexual experience has been so far, it is time to clear your mind of those ideologies and focus on pleasing yourself and your partner.

2. Avoid comparison

Comparison is one major issue that arises when you begin to sleep with multiple partners. One might begin to compare sexual satisfaction with past sexual experiences.

Comparing sex with your partner with those of past experiences can cause dissatisfaction with your current partner. Instead of making unfair comparisons, focus on working hand in hand with your partner to address any sexual issues you are both experiencing.

3. Focus more on pleasing your partner

What makes sex more enjoyable is not how much you try to satisfy yourself, but how much you want to please your partner. To give your sexual experience a boost, focus more on pleasing your partner.

Ask yourself what you can do to make them more satisfied. By doing so, you will realise that your own sexual enjoyment will be increased.

In addition, they too can see your commitment to please them more sexually and also put more effort into meeting your sexual needs as well.

4. Engage more foreplay

Many people pay less attention to foreplay during sex. While foreplay is not exactly the main act of sex, it can significantly enhance the sexual experience.

Foreplay prepares the body and the sexual apparatus involved in the art of sex. Foreplay without any intention to rush into penetrative sex can build strong sexual tension which can bring good sexual enjoyment/satisfaction when the actual sex occurs.

The secret to maximizing foreplay is in controlling your urge for penetrative sex, so as to build significant sexual tension during the act of sex. Sexual performance and enjoyment are all about tension, and not necessarily about force or energy as some would think.

5. Diet and alcohol

Sex is a physical act, requiring a lot of energy in the process. Diet and alcohol affect sex the same way it affects any other physical activity like running, jumping, walking, weight-lifting, and so on.

An adequate and nourishing diet is required for effective sexual performance. You don’t want to have sex with your partner when you are hungry.

Similarly, alcohol can stimulate sexual performance in some people because it can add a layer of “high” feeling to the picture. The only issue is that alcohol can cause other problems like erectile dysfunction and libido. This is quite understandable as someone who is ‘high’ already feels they are on top of the world and don’t seem to need any more enjoyment in the form of sex.

Who enjoys sex more: men or women?

According to a beautiful article published by Maxim.com, men have a stronger sex drive and can easily be stimulated by the slightest stimulus. Women have more frequent orgasms during sex, unlike men whose orgasm drops significantly after every ejaculation. In the end, it is inconclusive to say who enjoys sex more among the sexes.

The experience of sex is also subjective. Even two partners in the same act of sex will experience it differently. One can be very satisfied while the other is not. A number of factors can affect how much enjoyment one derives from sex. It becomes important to understand what makes your partner more satisfied, while they in turn look out for what satisfies you as well.

Is sex sweeter with or without a condom?

Both women and men rated unprotected vaginal intercourse as more pleasurable than protected vaginal intercourse. However, men’s pleasure ratings for unprotected vaginal intercourse were higher than women’s^[1]Sexual Pleasure and Condom Use – PMC.

The issue with using condoms and sexual intercourse is that of the primary function of condoms in this scenario. A condom is not used to enhance sex in any way. It is used to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. So, its effect in reducing the enjoyment of sex is nothing but an expected side effect.

It is advisable to use a condom whenever you are having sex with someone who is not your faithful partner, or if you want to prevent pregnancy. Do not sacrifice safety and protection for pleasure or enjoyment.

The use of a condom is only advised if you cannot abstain. So, abstinence is still key as far as safe sex is concerned. It also helps you reduce the number of partners you encounter in your lifetime, and the need for unnecessary comparisons eventually.

Conclusion

Pleasurable sex that feels good heavily depends on the level of release of special neurotransmitters from the brain. Thus, you can give your sexual experience a boost if you understand how to stimulate such brain activity in favour of sexual enjoyment.

The above tips are not any medications or drugs that promise sexual enjoyment or performance but they can help you increase brain stimulation of those important neurotransmitters from the brain to enhance sexual satisfaction.